Often, men fail in their attempts to build attraction or keep a girl interested. It’s not that they don’t have anything to offer, but rather because they make some mistake that completely kills her interest.
It’s all fine and good to go out to a bar on Saturday night and use your “game” to chat up the hottie in the miniskirt. You might even make some progress and be well on your way to a phone number or a trip back to her apartment. But all this good work can easily be undone by making one of these “attraction killing” mistakes:
1. Not Making Eye Contact
If you want to truly convey confidence, masculinity, and social status, you need to make eye contact with her! Failing to do so can really convey a lack of self-confidence and cause her to quickly lose interest.
2. Not Using “kino” and Failing to Touch Her
Now, you don’t want to go around groping every girl you meet, because that’s going to land you in a jail cell very quickly. But you also need to use “kino” (gentle, non-sexual body contact) to build some basic sexual attraction.
3. Not Reading her Body Language
Look, as much as it may be frustrating, no two women are completely alike. You need to adjust your flirting and your overall seduction strategy according to the feedback you’re getting from her.
If a woman isn’t laughing at your jokes, it’s time to try something new. True success requires you to read her and adapt your strategy to suit her unique personality.
Failing to do so can really cause you to crash and burn.
4. Not Demonstrating Self-esteem
The first time you meet a girl is not the right time to start talking about your self-esteem issues or the fact that you’re unemployed and living on your cousin’s sofa. Don’t devalue yourself in the first interaction — instead, focus on conveying high-value traits & demonstrating self-confidence.
5. Storytelling About Past Relationships
There’s definitely nothing wrong with mentioning past relationships or flings with a new girl you just met, especially if it’s to illustrate that you’ve got no problems landing a date.
But don’t dwell on past romances — you don’t want to seem emotionally damaged, and she definitely isn’t going to be more attracted to you if you tell her about your ex.
There are definitely other things you can do to kill attraction in a flirtatious conversation, but the above five are some of the most common. For more advice on flirting and talking to girls, read this article.